Not Giving a F*CK!


I really connected with this Tedx Talk. As i've grown older and have been through some incredibly difficult situations, i've learned that some things just aren't worth my time and energy. Some people are also not worth my time and energy.. and that's okay. There is no reason to keep toxic people in your life, but it can be hard to let them go. I struggled to let go of toxic people because I didn't want to be seen as someone who just "throws people away" and I didn't want to let go of those who wanted to be a part of my life because I felt like no one else would want to come into my life and deal with my crazy. I also felt obligated to do a lot of things that I didn't want to do because others wanted me to, society wanted me to, or I felt like I should. After my last attempt on my life I found a passion for life and vowed to cut out the crap that didn't add value and joy to my existence. This video put what I am trying to do into perfect words. I have learned that my f*ck budget does not include f*cks for:
  • staying with a partner who is a douchebag just because I don't think I deserve any better
  • changing myself and begging for extended family to love me when they treat me like crap and don't accept me as I am
  • driving to Texas to see my dad when he is going to be more focused on his emails than on interacting with me 
  • pursuing a PhD
  • pursuing my LCSW when I don't want to do counseling
  • wearing makeup EVERY day 
  • not getting tattoos because my dad doesn't approve
  • being with a partner who cannot support themselves 
I choose, instead, to give my f*cks to:
  • my friends
  • my family
  • my boyfriend
  • my pets.. and other animals 
  • traveling
  • going to live music events
  • my job 
  • dancing
  • trying new things
  • wearing makeup only when I want to
  • tattoos 
  • collecting weird stuff
What things do you not give a f*ck about? What things do you choose to give a f*ck about? 

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